Thursday, August 28, 2014

Day 557 - Not Realizing Your Full Potential


https://eqafe.com/p/not-realizing-your-full-potential-life-review

"How did this man’s tendency to resist pushing himself beyond his limitations eventually lead to him diminishing himself and his expression in his life?
What experience within him caused him to not want to put in the effort to push himself to become more?
How can you assist and support yourself to identify this experience and transcend it to ensure that you don’t diminish and limit yourself?"

I highly recommend investing in this EQAFE interview, which addresses the point of how to push through the resistance that comes up within oneself, when one feels tired/heavy, wanting to give up, which in essence is giving up on oneself.

What question can be asked to address the point of not creating oneself? What are you resisting?  What action can be taken?

Other EQAFE interviews that are very assisting on this point:

https://eqafe.com/p/unmotivated-reptilians-part-323
https://eqafe.com/p/procrastination-introduction-atlanteans-part-205 - The beginning of the series
https://eqafe.com/p/lethargy-introduction-atlanteans-part-212 - the beginning of the series

I also highly recommend any and all of the EQAFE interviews, which are supportive, informative, and provide the tools for practical application in one's life, to change oneself, to stand up and take responsibility for oneself.

Thus, creating here in the physical, a true human being that stands equal and one with all within the directive principle of what is best for all in all ways always.

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Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Day 556 - Slowing Myself Down

                                                                                           Desteni Artists

Continuing from Day 555 - The Dreaded 101

So, here is my  route going to work, jumping on the 126 for a couple of miles, which then flows into the 101, which I drive for approximately 4 miles and then I'm on the 33 going to Ojai.

In my last blog I mentioned that the 101 follows the coast up north.  Well, it follows the coast right in my town of Ventura! Continues to follow the coast going north through Santa Barbara.  South of Ventura, it veers inland.

I observed myself driving on these routes, where in my mind I have created a preference for the 126 and the 33 and a dread for the 101.  So, while driving on the 126, I was relaxed, and then when it veers onto the 101, I noticed a tensing of my body, to which I breathed and slowed myself down, bringing my awareness back to my body, back to my car, back to my current surroundings, which were the Pacific Ocean on my left and foothills on my right.  While converging onto the 101 there is more traffic, and traffic 'seems' to be moving faster.  And, then as I took the 33, my body automatically relaxed again, which showed me that I have been driving from a starting point of my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience driving as an experience of the mind, relaxing when driving on a route that I enjoy, tensing up while driving on a route that I dread.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to dread driving on the 101, where I have given a negative charge to the word dread.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel myself tense up when driving on the 101, 'feeling' the pace of the cars picking up, feeling the density of cars/traffic, to which I react negatively, participating in backchat, 'I only have to be on this route for a few miles, and then I'll be off, where I can relax and breathe',  as I see/realize/understand that I have created in my mind the idea that I can only breathe and relax once I'm off the 101, thereby missing the opportunity of just driving, being present in the moment, in my body, while on the 101, thus changing in real time, releasing myself from the program/pattern of fear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make travel decisions based upon my dread of the 101.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a barrier of the 101 between myself and where my daughter lives, as the most direct route is to just jump on the 101, to which I have built up a resistance, so that when faced with visiting my daughter, on several occasions I have decided not to go, just so I do not have to drive on the 101.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to follow memories of past driving times on the 101, getting stuck in traffic, being sandwiched in dense traffic with cars and/or trucks which I have accepted and allowed myself to feel nervous and tense.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience myself as feeling claustrophobic when traveling on the 101 heading into Los Angeles, feeling my heart racing, having to continuously direct myself to breathe and slow down, where ultimately I have found other routes so as to not have to place myself on this route, yet I see/realize/understand that this experience of the mind, as me, has become suppressed and still exists within and as me.

I see/realize/understand that I can choose alternate routes, as long as I face/investigate what my starting point is.

When and as I am driving on the 101, which I will be driving on the 101, as it goes right through my town, I stop and I breathe, I slow myself down and do not accept or allow myself to make decisions to avoid the 101based in fear/dread/apprehension, which I have reacted negatively to within and as my mind, as I see/realize/understand that I have charged these words with a negative charge, and then reacted from these negatively charged definitions.

When and as I decide to visit my daughter, I do not go into my imagination about what I will encounter on the 101, instead I stop and I breathe, and when driving, to change myself in real time by slowing myself down and breathing in self-awareness of myself, my body, my current driving reality.

When and as I see myself tensing up while driving on the 101, I stop and I breathe, I slow myself down and release myself from this pattern/program that I have created in my mind that separates me from my current reality of driving, bringing my awareness back to my physical body, to the physicality of the car, the placement of my hands and feet, being aware of the other cars/traffic, and physical surroundings, and thus changing in real time.

I commit myself to remain here, as the living application, constant and stable, breathing in self-awareness, no matter where I am driving, no matter what the road conditions, thus assisting and supporting myself to slow myself down, thus releasing myself from 'mind driving'.


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Friday, August 22, 2014

Day 555 - The Dreaded 101



My daughter, several months ago now, moved two towns over, which is really only fifteen minutes from me.

In order to get to her, I have to drive on Rt. 101, which I do not 'like' traveling on as it is 'in my mind' one of the main thoroughfares in California, and is always heavily traveled.

So, when I talk to her about coming to see her, or the fact that she's now 'way over there', the 101 has become a barrier in my mind.

So, in conversation with her yesterday she said to me, "mom you need to write this out - you need to walk this point!"  To which I laughed, as she was right.

Why have I created such a resistance to driving this route? 

It is usually heavily traveled.
Traffic can get backed up, causing 'being stuck in traffic'
It's one of those routes that 'feels rushy' (I know this is a made up word, lol),

Memories:


Working in Santa Barbara - having to travel the 101 to reach Santa Barbara from Ventura, remembering coming back on Sunday nights and always being stuck in traffic, where a 40 minute drive could extend to anywhere from an hour, to one time, taking three hours to get home!

Driving the 101 on my monthly trips with my client to Los Angeles, feeling more tense the closer to getting into L.A., as the traffic would get more dense, and of course everyone is zipping along.

So, I see before I even get in the car, I am in my mind, driving the 101, anticipating zooming cars, dense traffic, getting stuck in traffic. 

Why do I have such an aversion to heavy traffic?  It makes me 'feel' kind of claustrophobic, I notice my hands are tense on the steering wheel, my body is tense, my breathing is shallow, I feel a little nervous.

I participate in backchat 'I do not want to be here', 'I like back roads where there's less traffic, where I can drive slower, not feel rushed'.

I only go to Los Angeles with my client twice a year now, and have successfully circumvented the 'dread 101', to where we take the scenic route down the coast, and then come back a different route that brings us through the smaller routes and countryside, which my client and I find very enjoyable.

So, now I have built such a resistance to this 'dreaded 101', that I now drive it sparingly, and when I'm on it, I'm looking forward to getting off it.

In further investigating the 101, further north it follows the coast, and it isn't nearly as heavily traveled as Interstate 5 which runs in the middle of the state.

Self-forgiveness to follow....


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Thursday, August 21, 2014

Day 554 - Recent Reactions - Part 2

 
                                                                                     Desteni Artists

Continued from Day 553 - Recent Reactions

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in judgment, when noticing family members 'doing something' that I judged as sabotaging themselves, and then experienced a tightening/tenseness within myself, when mentioning to one of them my observation/judgment, to which I 'heard' their justification, thus further reacting, taking it personal, wanting to get up and leave.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see others as separate from myself, as I see/realize/understand that anything that I judge in another I am still accepting and allowing, that still exists within and as myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge another as going back on their word, as I see/realize/understand that this is just a projection of myself, of me going back on my word, on me, falling, time-looping when I commit to do something and then don't follow through.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take one sentence that a family member made, about another family member's supposed reaction, personally, thinking that they were judging me, then participating in backchat when this person did not call me right back, so as to 'fuel' this imagining that they were in fact judging me, when in actuality their not immediately responding to me had nothing to do with me, had to do with their own work struggles, where I had created this whole scenario in my imagination that was not real.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not wait and deal with the facts instead of participating in impatience and then taking personally an imagined judgment, as I see/realize/understand that I, in fact, was the one reacting in judging towards another.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in judgment towards this family member, based upon memories, of past experiences with this person, thus super-imposing the past, which is not real, onto the present, instead of just breathing, remaining here, not accepting or allowing myself to participate within and as an energetic experience of the mind, that I justified within myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to emotionally react when witnessing two individuals having an exchange of words, where I judged one attacking the other, as I see/realize/understand that I was just projecting out onto another that which still exists within me.

I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself to feel that energy arise within me, feeling a tightening in my head/chest area, then wanting to go into 'attack mode' and come to the defense, as I see/realize/understand that I, in essence, wanted to do exactly what I was judging another as doing, as I judged them as 'defending their ego'.

When and as I see myself reacting in judgment towards others, where I want to go into fight/flight mode, thus saying something and then wanting to leave in a huff, I stop and I breathe and immediately slow myself to release myself from this pattern/program that I have existed within and as.

I commit myself to see/realize/understand that my judgment/reaction not only serves no practical purpose, but separates me from myself and others as myself, and that by using my breath to slow myself down and stabilize myself in the moment, I can then direct myself to change in real time.

When and as I see myself reacting to what I imagine another to be feeling, thus accepting and allowing myself to shift into an alternate reality, I stop and I breathe, I bring myself back here to my physical body, as I see/realize/understand that what another thinks/feels does not justify me into emotionally reacting, as first of all I imagined this whole scenario, and as such

I commit myself to when communicating with others, to direct myself here, remaining present in my current reality, not accepting or allowing myself to go into imagined scenarios, standing up and taking responsibility for myself, thus changing in real time.

When and as I see myself judging another as attacking, then going into attack mode myself to come to the defense of another, I stop and I breathe, I immediately slow myself down, realizing that what is being presented to me in that moment is a projection of myself, and in that moment I have the opportunity to breathe and stabilize myself, thus directing myself to change in real time, not accepting or allowing myself to separate myself from myself and another as myself, realizing that I can in that moment direct this point, and as such

I commit myself to stand up and take responsibility for myself, not accepting or allowing myself to create pain and stress on my body by participating in an energetic reaction of the mind, thus remaining here free and clear, constant and stable, standing as a pillar of support for myself and others as myself.


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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Day 553 - Recent Reactions


                                                                                      Marlen Vargas Del Razo

I would like to open the point, again, of reacting, as recently there have been several incidents in which I found myself reacting to others, reacting within backchat, reacting within myself.

First of all I was at a family gathering, when I found myself reacting in judgment when others were participating in behavior that I 'felt' was unnecessary.  Now in the past I would have gone into the 'fight or flight' pattern, saying something and then storming off.  Instead, I breathed, calming myself down, then instead of just leaving, I went to the store, and as I was driving I spoke self-forgiveness, and then returned to the gathering where I was then stable and able to participate with others with no reaction.

Another incident was 'thinking' a family member was upset at me, was avoiding me, where I participated in backchat, 'why haven't they called me back?  what is their problem?' thus taking it personally.  When, in reality, when I did hear from this person, there was absolutely no problem, this person was in their own conundrum over their work and there was no issue between us. 

So, all I did was react to an imagined scenario and take something personal, that wasn't even real.

Then lastly I found myself reacting to what I witnessed as one person attacking another person, where I wanted to defend the person that I thought was being unfairly attacked, yet the person that I 'felt' was being attacked, did not react and, in fact, remained calm and stable and was able to direct themselves and the situation that ultimately created an understanding.

So, I see/realize/understand that in these incidents I reacted in judgment, wanting to lash out at others that are really me, projections of myself, standing before me, mirrors of me, of what I accept and allow and what still exists within and as me.

One point is that in all of these incidents, I was able to see clearly what I was participating in, I thus breathed and spoke self-forgiveness and was able to stabilize myself, however

In my next blog I will write out self-forgiveness, so as to direct myself, be specific, so when faced with reactions, I stand up and take responsibility for myself immediately and change in real time.

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Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Day 552 - Practical Housekeeping


I have found it very supportive, when reading other Journey to Life Blogs that address practical living. 

So, I thought I would share how I keep house.

First of all, I believe in 'less is more'.  I go through my closets and cupboards at least twice a year, as there can be an accumulation of 'stuff' that is no longer used, no longer fits, is no longer relevant in my life.  By clearing out cupboards and closets, and also wiping out these closets/cupboards as I go, I find that I always know what is in every cupboard/closet, which lends itself to a sense of order, where I do not 'feel' cluttered, because my cupboards/closets are uncluttered.

I also find that when I do my housekeeping, that if I do a little at a time, I then avoid 'feeling' overwhelmed.  Now, this is something that I started when my children were little, as I was very busy but wanted to maintain a clean home environment for my family, as I found that if the house was in order it assisted and supported me and my family as it lent itself to helping to maintain a sense of calm and avoided a sense of chaos.

I find that picking up after oneself, cleaning as you go, really helps. In other words, if you see a smudge on the wall, just wipe it! Instead of looking at it, saying, I'll do it later!  That way it's already done.

So, in doing housework a little at a time, I find that the home environment is always clean and orderly.  So, for instance, perhaps one day I may do dusting and the floors, as I always dust first and then do the floors and if I polish the furniture I do it last.  Another day I may do the laundry.  Another day I may then do deeper cleaning of the kitchen and bathroom. I find with the refrigerator, that a clean as you go policy avoids making it a project.  So just wiping a shelf as needed assists in maintaining a clean fridge.

I also find that it is important to maintain the baseboards and corners as dust/dirt accumulates there, but if kept up, assists in maintaining the carpets/floors.

I also recommend using baking soda and white vinegar in your toilet.  Adding baking soda to a load of laundry.  Baking soda is also good for cleaning sinks and tubs. And, baking soda and white vinegar are very inexpensive!

I not only place an open box of baking soda in my fridge, but also in my cupboard where I keep my trash.

Actually the uses of baking soda are really unlimited.  I use it when I brush my teeth.  Add it to my bath water.  And, in fact if you have dry feet, fill a bucket with water and add a cup of baking soda, soak your feet for at least 45 minutes, and then rub the areas that were dry or hardened and you will be left with soft/smooth feet.

So, I got a little off the point.

Also, using lemons in housekeeping is also very supportive.  You can take a lemon, cut it in half, I place it in a bowl, and leave it on my kitchen counter, and you can also place this in your bathroom, thereby keeping a fresh scent in your home, then when you are done with the lemon, you can grind it in the garbage disposal to keep it fresh.  Baking soda sprinkled in the garbage disposal and left over-night and then rinsed works well too.

I also found it very supportive to engage children from a young age in the cleaning process.  Because, when children are really young they want to help so it is a good time to start developing that skill so it becomes second nature for them to clean simply and thoroughly.  This also supports a team effort, where the housework does not fall all on the mother's or father's shoulders.  I will say, that this does present other points as they become teenagers, but that's another blog.  However, when they become adults, they have this skill.


I also sweep outside, whether it is a porch, stoop, so as to not track in on the clean floors, and I also take my shoes off at the door, and so do others, which is a supportive floor maintenance.

The most important thing is that keeping a home in order, does not have to be a drudge, but can actually assist and support oneself to remain present, attending to the task at hand, here in the physical! If you keep your physical home environment simple and clean, it is enjoyable when you come home, your eye does not go to a task left undone, and actually gives you more time to spend with your family and attend to other activities.

So, keep it simple and enjoy!


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Sunday, August 17, 2014

Day 551 - Self-Corrective Application on Dying


Continued from Day 549, 550

When and as I see myself reacting in shock, feeling stunned, when I hear that someone I know dies, where my body becomes rigid and my breath becomes shallow, I stop and I breathe, I immediately slow myself down and bring my awareness here to my current reality within my physical body, as I see/realize/understand that shifting into my mind, into an alternate reality, going into memories of how I perceived this person to be serves no practical purpose, and only continues to perpetuate existing within separation of myself, and another as myself, and as such

I commit myself to stand up and direct myself in the moment and thus change myself in real time, standing constant and stable, as I see/realize/understand that participating in thinking of memories of another is a program of the mind, and as such is not real, and is not relevant.

When and as I see myself experiencing a feeling of sadness and loss over the news of a sudden death of someone I know, I stop and I breathe, and slow myself down, immediately releasing myself from this program/pattern of the mind, where I identify something in another that I have not investigated and/or given to myself, and as such

I commit myself to investigate within myself that which I saw in another in separation of myself, as I see/realize/understand that we are all one and that which I see in another exists within and as myself.

When and as I see myself reacting in fear to death, I stop and I breathe, I do not accept or allow myself to participate in 'fearing' death, as death is inevitable, and as such

I commit myself to direct myself to live fully in each here moment, actualizing my utmost potential, thereby not accumulating regret and consequence, but standing free and clear each and every moment.

When and as I see myself participating in sadness when I read statistics or see images of children/people/animals dying around the world, daily, because of war, because of starvation, because of abuse, I stop and I breathe and immediately slow myself down, as I see/realize/understand that reacting in sadness only continues to perpetuate the very circumstances that I 'wish to end in this world, and as such

I commit myself to stand as a pillar of support for myself and each and every being in this world, by not participating in an energetic experience of the mind, instead I direct myself to change myself in real time and thus stand free and clear and thus be a true support for myself and others, utilizing my breath to stabilize myself in each here moment.

I commit myself to Living by the Principle of What is Best For All

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